The phone rang, it was 6:30 on a Monday evening and it was my husband’s doctor. He was calling way after normal office hours. I didn’t think much of it and yet my stomach turned as I handed the phone over to my husband.
They had found a mass in his chest and they wanted to run some tests. They wouldn’t say what it was but the words of cancer loomed in the background. This was the end of March and it was not until 3 months later that we were provided with some type of closure. My husband was diagnosed with a Thymus Carcinoid Tumor and after a major surgery, 2 runs of chemotherapy and 36 rounds of radiation, we attempted to put our life back together.
It is now 3 and 1/2 years later and we have returned again to the nightmare of the unknown. My husband’s cancer has returned and we again attempt to find normalcy in something that feels no where close to normal.
What does this have to do with condemnation or conviction? I will try to explain.
When my husband was first diagnosed I did not have a faith in God that was very strong. His first diagnosis brought me to a constant love that is only found in Jesus Christ. I thought I was doing so well! This time though, I feel convicted that it is my husband that must be brought closer to God. I would not have even realized this if I did not learn the difference between condemnation and conviction.
Roman’s 8:1 states, Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. Condemnation comes from the devil. This is the feeling that we are not worthy. As Job 1:7 says, The Lord said to Satan, “where have you been? ” Then satan answered The Lord and said, “roaming the earth and patrolling it.” Condemnation is what told me 4 years ago that I was not strong enough to make it through the sickness of my husband. It was condemnation that kept me awake at night wondering how I was going to get through the next day and the many more after that. Condemnation told me that I was not doing enough for my husband and I must try harder. It was what told me that I caused his illness or it would be my fault if I didn’t pray enough to save him. But, it is God’s word that I held on to that helped me through. As John 3:17-18 states, “for God did not send his son into the world, but to save the world through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned.” I am not condemned, I am however convicted.
Conviction tells me that I must press on. Conviction is the soft words of Christ telling me that I have work to do. Conviction helps me to lean on the fact that there is more to my husband’s illness then what I am seeing. Conviction told me that God wants to use my strength I have in him to get my husband closer to him.
Every morning I pray with my children prior to leaving home. I do this when my husband is not around as I am unsure how he would feel. I know we should pray together but it has become easier to allow our ways of worship to be joined at church. We pray at meals but that is it. That was until we had to battle cancer again.
My husband and I were lying in bed dreading the moment that he had to take the pills. We were told that he now needed to be on chemotherapy and it would require taking one pill a night for 4 weeks then a break for 2 weeks. We are not sure how long we will have to do this but that night we were in charge of that first pill. The side effects are numerous but unknown to us which one may or may not be a concern. He had to take a pill too cytotoxic for him to handle without gloves. We sat and we waited as if time would make the pill become alive and find a way into his stomach by himself.
We got up and made our way into the kitchen with the little bottles in hand. I knew what I had to do. I started to pray. Over each and every pill I prayed. Over each and every pill I will continue to pray.
I then heard his words, God’s words telling me, “It is time Carrie, it is time for you to bring him to me.”
Faith is an amazing thing. I have heard it said over the past couple of weeks that it will be my faith that saves my husband. I cringe and smile as I realize that yes it is faith that saves us, but this does not mean that it is what will stop my husband’s cancer or keep him from death. It is faith that tells me that God has a bigger plan. Conviction tells me that it is now my job to help my husband find the Love of God that is real. This will include prayers over pills, scripture written on notecards to remind him not to fear, and notes written on the mirror that show him that he is loved by his creator.
Condemnation keeps us stuck, but conviction provides us with freedom. As 2 Corinthians 3:17 proclaims, “Now The Lord is the Spirit and where the Spirit of The Lord is, there is freedom.”
I am not giving up on my husband, I am not thinking that death is coming. I am however living at the feet of Jesus and proclaiming , “My grace is sufficient for you, for the power is made perfect in my weakness. I will rather boast most gladly of my weaknesses in order that the power of Christ may dwell in me (2 Corinthians 12:9)”. My faith brought me to Christ and my conviction will now include bringing my husband to him as well!
Don’t allow condemnation to steal what The Lord has planned for you and your loved ones. Listen to the conviction of The Lord and walk in the journey he will make known to you. Learn to sing of his mercy as you walk in the valleys of sorrow that will lead you to the rivers of joy! I have seen the sorrow and I know that if I continue to follow his call I will see the rivers of joy.
Will you allow the lies of the enemy condemn you? I did once. But then I went to The Lord. He spoke to me in saying, “I swear I take no pleasure in the death of the wicked, but rather that they turn from their ways and live. Turn, Turn from your evil ways” (Ezekial 33:11). I now will listen to the words of conviction as I find his strength in my weakness and use this strength to save the one I love!